329 | ADHD, Narcissism, and Emotions in Relationships with Jared DeFife PhD


Do you have trouble maintaining relationships? Eric and Dr. Jared DeFife, Ph.D. discuss ADHD’s more complex aspects. They also talk about emotions in relationships and narcissism.

Jared is a Atlanta-based clinical psychologist. His private practice specializes in the treatment of adults with ADHD and men’s mental well-being. Dr. Jared was a Harvard Medical School clinical fellow and has served as a media expert for Psychology Today and Psychotherapy Networker, The Huffington Post and BBC News.

Dr. Jared talks about his learning difficulties and the interpersonal issues that he faced in school. He also talks about how his emotions changed after he was treated. Dr. Jared also discusses the difficulties of living with someone with ADHD or narcissism.

Dr. Jared talks about the most common complaints that he hears from his partners, as well as the differences between ADHD self-coping or management and narcissism. Eric discusses ways to avoid emotional interference. Dr. Jared explains how cognitive elements can impact how you feel.

Do you listen to your spouse when they talk to you? Dr. Jared discusses what a partner could say to you to be helpful. Maybe you can say, “I heard you” and “I am working to improve.” Dr. Jared provides some great information about ADHD and relationships. This episode may be of value to you and your partner if you find any of these ideas appealing.

You’ll learn:

[02: 08] Welcome to the show, Jared! [03: 18] Jared shares his ADHD story. [05: 04] When did you first realize you had ADHD? [06: 45] They discuss the apparent signs of ADHD that were missed through school. [07: 31] Eric and Jared speak about their learning disabilities. [09: 00] Jared speaks about his social relationships in school. [11: 44] Jared shares the journey into the psychology field. [13: 14] When Jared got medicated, his emotional life changed drastically. [16: 13] If you are worried that you are a narcissist, you are not a narcissist. [21: 06] Jared discusses how hard it is to live with a person with ADHD. [23: 40] Do you think we can develop conscientiousness through active practices? [25: 40] Jared shares the two most common complaints he hears in his practice. [28: 25] Jared speaks about the reasons partners talk about narcissism. [31: 34] What is ADHD coping and self-management, and what is pure narcissism? [34: 43] Do emotions sometimes take over, and you do not understand what to do with them? [39: 09] Jared discusses what we can do about regulating our emotions. [41: 02] Have you ever been in a self-imposed time out in your relationship? [43: 43] Eric shares what someone in his coaching group shared about putting a timer on their discussion. [46: 04] Eric talks about running mental interference with emotions. [47: 20] Jared speaks about how cognitive elements can affect how you feel. [49: 04] Jared talks about what a partner can say that can be helpful. [52: 46] I can hear you and I’m working to improve! [54: 13] Jared, thank you so much for being on the show! [56: 14] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron click on our Patreon tap at www.ADHDreWired.com Find Jared:


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